Comments on: DEATH: The Final Frontier http://erraticsouls.com/death-the-final-frontier/ Our Philosophy of Blogging: To write what we will in whatever way we choose, without fear of regret. Our meanderings may wander 'erratically' at times, and there is certainly no certainty we may not change our mind, but one thing is absolute, we will always be honest to ourselves... Fri, 06 Aug 2010 03:43:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: angela bisceglia http://erraticsouls.com/death-the-final-frontier/comment-page-1/#comment-1182 angela bisceglia Fri, 06 Aug 2010 03:43:42 +0000 http://erraticsouls.com/?p=24#comment-1182 I recently went to my onocoligist. they first took me to the finacial room. i was told my zometa for my breast to bone cancer to strengthen my bones is 12 000 dollars a month. i was furios. how could they! any of them. do you remember that Pink Floyd song onthe turning away from the pale and downtrodden? Aids pts. live a very long time now. somewhere somebody spent tons and tons of money on that situaton.im 46! maybe we are blessed by God and take the early train out of here.i hold on to Jesus Christ for alot of reasons not the least of which is HIS PROMISE OF ETERNAL LIFE! we wont die if we lean on him. there is not away. someone has got .. answers on cancer. but we cancer pts.are the number 2 industry in the world.go figure.i call it the medical mafia.cancer the new aids. all my best angie I recently went to my onocoligist. they first took me to the finacial room. i was told my zometa for my breast to bone cancer to strengthen my bones is 12 000 dollars a month. i was furios. how could they! any of them. do you remember that Pink Floyd song onthe turning away from the pale and downtrodden? Aids pts. live a very long time now. somewhere somebody spent tons and tons of money on that situaton.im 46! maybe we are blessed by God and take the early train out of here.i hold on to Jesus Christ for alot of reasons not the least of which is HIS PROMISE OF ETERNAL LIFE! we wont die if we lean on him. there is not away. someone has got .. answers on cancer. but we cancer pts.are the number 2 industry in the world.go figure.i call it the medical mafia.cancer the new aids. all my best angie

]]> By: Anja http://erraticsouls.com/death-the-final-frontier/comment-page-1/#comment-65 Anja Wed, 30 Apr 2008 13:38:29 +0000 http://erraticsouls.com/?p=24#comment-65 It is hard to accept that you going to die in the first place. But it is a lot harder for those who have to deal and live with it. When the reaper comes to get me it is over. There is no pain, no suffering and no worries. For our children family and friends they have to deal with it. They have to come to grips and continue with all day life. And that is so hard to have to live without someone you love. I just want to fight the cancer as hard as I can for James and the children. It is hard to accept that you going to die in the first place. But it is a lot harder for those who have to deal and live with it. When the reaper comes to get me it is over. There is no pain, no suffering and no worries. For our children family and friends they have to deal with it. They have to come to grips and continue with all day life. And that is so hard to have to live without someone you love. I just want to fight the cancer as hard as I can for James and the children.

]]> By: Rayne http://erraticsouls.com/death-the-final-frontier/comment-page-1/#comment-60 Rayne Tue, 29 Apr 2008 12:10:04 +0000 http://erraticsouls.com/?p=24#comment-60 When I was first diagnosed with my own health issue quite a few friends pulled away from me. When I approached them and asked them why they no longer called or visited they said they couldn't handle it. At first I was so angry. I was the one with the illness, how could they be the ones not able to handle it? As time has passed I have learned that anger is a waste of precious time and really, what could they do for me? In a way, having my world grow a little smaller is easier to cope with. I, fortunately, have a fairly decent amount of time to work and in the beginning I worried about wasting time. Now, I realize that death isn't about me, it's about the ones I'll leave behind and the best thing I can do is listen, and talk, and give what I can. I think you are doing the right thing with Anja, talking, sharing, listening, building up a store house of memories. I think you are right about your friends, too, I do believe they will have regret and maybe shame. When I was first diagnosed with my own health issue quite a few friends pulled away from me. When I approached them and asked them why they no longer called or visited they said they couldn’t handle it. At first I was so angry. I was the one with the illness, how could they be the ones not able to handle it? As time has passed I have learned that anger is a waste of precious time and really, what could they do for me? In a way, having my world grow a little smaller is easier to cope with. I, fortunately, have a fairly decent amount of time to work and in the beginning I worried about wasting time. Now, I realize that death isn’t about me, it’s about the ones I’ll leave behind and the best thing I can do is listen, and talk, and give what I can.
I think you are doing the right thing with Anja, talking, sharing, listening, building up a store house of memories.
I think you are right about your friends, too, I do believe they will have regret and maybe shame.

]]> By: James Burton http://erraticsouls.com/death-the-final-frontier/comment-page-1/#comment-59 James Burton Tue, 29 Apr 2008 05:24:19 +0000 http://erraticsouls.com/?p=24#comment-59 This whole thing has shown us a lot about people in general and how some people just cannot cope with the prospect of death. Some very close friends have not been in touch at all and we think it is because they do not know what to say. They cannot handle talking to us perhaps because of fear of saying the wrong thing or just sitting there saying nothing at all. In the end though, I believe they will regret not making that step and getting in touch. I tell Anja my feelings and we share so much - every moment that we can. It helps to talk and bring things out in the open. And thank you for your words Rayne. Saying sorry is not lame - it is a gesture of your kindness. To say nothing hurts much more. This whole thing has shown us a lot about people in general and how some people just cannot cope with the prospect of death. Some very close friends have not been in touch at all and we think it is because they do not know what to say. They cannot handle talking to us perhaps because of fear of saying the wrong thing or just sitting there saying nothing at all.

In the end though, I believe they will regret not making that step and getting in touch. I tell Anja my feelings and we share so much – every moment that we can. It helps to talk and bring things out in the open.

And thank you for your words Rayne. Saying sorry is not lame – it is a gesture of your kindness. To say nothing hurts much more.

]]> By: Rayne http://erraticsouls.com/death-the-final-frontier/comment-page-1/#comment-58 Rayne Mon, 28 Apr 2008 22:39:02 +0000 http://erraticsouls.com/?p=24#comment-58 I am searching for the right words to say. "I'm sorry" seems so lame and doesn't in any cover what you are going through. It also doesn't help. I wish it did. I am searching for the right words to say. “I’m sorry” seems so lame and doesn’t in any cover what you are going through. It also doesn’t help.
I wish it did.

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